So, you’ve seen the pics. I’m due to be a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding this May. I’ve tried on and ordered the dress, and have been looking forward to figuring out the rest (hurr did, nails did, finding shoes I can walk and stand in for the better part in the day). Today, I got an email from David’s saying my dress was in and ready for me to pick up- hooray! I send my friend a text letting her know and that I’ll get it next week, and she replies with a “I was just getting ready to text you and the rest of the bridesmaids. I decided to postpone to May 2013. Still having the wedding but don’t want everything to be rushed. We just hit the 1 year mark [since they’ve begun dating]. No changes in the colors or dress, just the date.”
Oh? I wish I could say I predicted something like this happening, given the circumstances. They got engaged in December, and since then she’s gone back and forth about the date a few times. First April, then they thought of February (because “why wait?”), then a date in May was agreed upon… Until they realized the officiant they wanted wasn’t even available that day, so they moved it to the next week. Okay. I’ve been checking on her to see what I can do, despite me living far away, but I was usually met with nothing, mostly because whatever they wanted, they couldn’t agree on a budget for.
We’ve talked budgets before- I’m an accounting major. She went from wanting to invest more in the marriage than the wedding, to just… well, I’m not even sure. She’s not really been communicating much as far as a vision or anything. I always point out that there is a cheap (or DIY) way to execute whatever it is they wanted to do. Next May (date as of now unknown) comes with a possible time constraint if I plan on doing graduation- I dropped a class, so I pushed my graduation date back. The school only has one a year so next May could be my shot if I bother to do it.
I think the part that sucks so far is that I’m holding on to a dress for over a year now… that will likely have to be cleaned and all of that when we get closer to the actual (unknown) date. Not to mention all of the stuff that can happen in the course of a year. I just… this feels weird. I’m not sure if I like the idea of being on call of sorts for whenever this event happens, but now that the dress is here and paid for, I feel locked into it… Is this normal stuff? As I probably said before, I’ve never been a bridesmaid before, and I’m wanting to know what more I could do to make this better.
This situation does make me more in favor of eloping when my time comes, though. Or, at the very least, not sending any notices about dates until all of the important stuff has down payments and is secured.